L.U.V.

The three little words that everyone wants to hear...
Love.

Understanding.

Validation.

KaliDas Lives

You came to me on borrowed wings

Who taught you how to fly?

Drifting in my open window,

You held me as I cried.

Your eyes aglow

Your gaze so knowing

Your boundless happiness was showing.

A happy tear upon your face

Presence surrounding me with grace

A moonbeam danced across the floor

As you glided to the door.

You waved to me

Ascending high

You said I love you

Told me not to cry.

I looked about the lights of gold

On my heart you had tight hold

I laughed through tears, I blew a kiss

You caught it, at that point I knew

The honor that you gave

One last glimpse, for me, of you.

Your angelic face within my dreams

Your love, it fills my being

The voice is yours, inside my head

It is through your eyes I am seeing.

"I realized that life is truly amazing," says Kalidas. "I realized that the quality of my life is determined by how I choose to live it. In Northern Lights we say that 'as long as your heart is beating, you're alive and you have choices.' That is the simplest of truths."



feast, no famine

Dinner with friends will cure all that ails you...

the truth...

having imperfections allows you to stand out!

girls girls girls

I was raised by my sisters

Long after birth

If I went astray

They herded me in

Protected by their warmth

Goddesses are they

And will be until

They are leaving this plane

An impenetrable female force

Rising upward

Mothers

Lovers

Daughters

Sisters

Aunties

Friends

Beloved are we

Someone’s promise

Someone’s hopes

be virtuous

Patience takes practice, and practice makes perfect.

Being patient is one of the most difficult challenges in my life. There are things for which my patience is endless, like the elderly and children. Other things seeking my patience may have to take a back seat! I realized yesterday that as I am getting older...I am losing some level of patience for the following things:

1. people driving slower than the speed limit

2. people who talk on their cell phones while driving

3. indecisiveness

4. my husband putting coffee grounds in the sink, balling wet towels up, leaving cabinet doors open, leaving bottle caps and empty beer bottles on the counter 5 feet from the recycle bin...

I could go on forever on this one! :)

My point is patience is a virtue, and I am trying to remember to be virtuous!

Steel Magnolias

When your heart is aching and it seems that there are no answers to the questions at hand...remember that you are not very unlike the magnolia that blooms from the mighty Magnolia  tree.

As the flower, you seem delicate and paper-thin, worn down from your worry, but as you look around you can see you are lifted and supported by the strong branches that are woven beneath you.

It is there, in that precise moment, you gather your strength, and you take the first step towards the new you!

Do YoU kNoW tHe DIffEReNcE BeTwEeN a RAvEn AnD a WrItInG DeSk???

examining your life may not be the exact plan you had for a Saturday afternoon, but give it a try!

If you are at all like me, you have a constant barrage of things running around your mind!

As I sit back and reflect on my relationship, I can honestly say that MY life is an ongoing work in progress...much like a painting the artist has stepped away from: looks finished, but lies somewhere between rough draft and masterpiece!.

smitten

so many people in my life are finding new love...

so exciting!

In the beginning, it was really splendid...

Life's like this.

It goes up and down, and times are ever changing.

Things seemed so much easier when we were little. Now that we are grown, we have so many things to worry about. 

You have to Stand for Something...or You'll Fall for Anything!

I have days filled with doubt. I suppose it creeps in to shout out at me , to help me remember that I am human and I make errors.

I beleive that doubt is natural, and it comforts me to know that there are things that I do not know for certain.

I am a person who enjoys mystery. I think that life is fascinating in every aspect.

I like to ponder the idea that we are ALL connected and that each of my actions influences many other lives.

As do yours...

What of love...

Have you ever stopped to think what love looks like to other people?

It may be loud, overt and totally obvious, like a shout of  I LOVE YOU...or it may look like a spotted cat acting like a lamp.

To a child love comes softly, in the form of a mother's arms wrapping around him.

To a parent, love may come in the shape of a teenager who takes time to smile, instead of sneer!

To a husband, love comes in swiftly when his wife rushes tho greet him after his long workday.

A wife sees love in a husband that empties the dishwasher without complaint...and feeds the kids!

A pet feels your love when you talk to them in that special way that convinces you they understand! :)

Love, to friends, is a listening ear, a word of encouragement, and always a kind word.

Love looks like a smile to some.

Love is flowing tears to others.

Love can sometimes be a glance and you may not even see it!

However love manifests itself in your life, relish in it! Know that in our own way, we are all deserving of love!

Carry Me Away...

A friend was speaking to me about material things and our attachment to them. I was preparing for a move and our discussion of packing turned from material items to important non-physical items I would be taking on my journey.  The things that I found important then, I still hold in my heart as core guidelines to live my life by. What follows are my life requirements, as written on that day, and my “list” of things I take with me wherever I go.

Acceptance: especially of my own self & faults

Self esteem: I will not allow myself to feel inadequate. I will nurture myself.

Respect: for self and others

Pleasure & Joy: I will live to the fullest and celebrate being

Choice:  I will allow myself choice and not put limitations on myself

Grace: This is my goal…to live with grace. I wish to become fully in tune with my spirituality.

Compassion: My heart will remain open and will not shut down. I will connect with others & receive lessons thankfully.

Forgiveness: I will not be indebted emotionally. I will not hold onto resentment.

Humor: I will look at the world with a light heart. I will laugh often.

Patience: Change is not easy but I will be patient.

Humility: I will have pride in my accomplishments and I will never turn down a universal lesson.

Gratitude: I am appreciative of where I am in my life and I am grateful for all that I have.

Abundance: I will believe that I will always have everything I need.

Peace: I will focus on the moment at hand and not dwell on the past.

Clarity: I will see clearly. I will pay attention to moments I am not seeing clearly.

Courage: I will be unafraid of changes taking place.

Adventure: I look forward to tomorrow.

I thought you might notice that LOVE does not appear on this list. It is my opinion that, collectively, the items on my list are the very make up of love which should explain its written absence.

Give us a kiss Paddy!

The following post is proof that we put up with a lot because we are in love!

Happy Saint Patrick's Day to you... fer f*@& sake

Paddy takes his new wife to bed on their wedding night. She undresses & lies on the bed spreadeagled and says "You know what I want dont you?"

"Yeah," says Paddy. "The whole friggin' bed by the looks of it!"

Paddy goes into a John Lewis department store and asks the shopkeeper, "Excuse me sir, but do you sell potato clocks?"

The shopkeeper looks at him and says, "Are you taking the piss? We sell cuckoo clocks, carriage clocks, grandfather clocks, alarm clocks... what the feck is a potato clock?"

And Paddy says, "I don't know, but I start my new job at nine tomorrow, and the wife said

'You'd better get

a potato clock.'"

some things change, some stay the same.

A friend and I have lately been discussing why people act the way that we do.

It is one of those things that you could discuss without end, and never touch on all there is to say about such a subject. The basic conclusion that I have come to is that we are a reactionary species, humans.

We are aloof and disinterested most times and are unwilling to admit that many times we ignore important things because they take work to sustain. 

We only react when we are told or shown that something is amiss and then we do so in surprise.

Maybe it is true that when we meet someone, we are on our party manners. Once time has gone by and we grow comfortable with each other, we start to lower the shield and the gloves come off. We forget our manners and start taking one another for granted. 

Remember this:

Buddha said...Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.

checking in on your health

Being healthy is free.

Being healthy is something we all can accomplish!

Being healthy is important. It is difficult to make a change from a bad habit, to a better one!

Once you make up your mind, though, it becomes SOOOOOOOOOOOOO easy!

Just do it!

You have to want to, but it will work!

I was at least a pack a day smoker for many years. It took several attempts to quit, but when I was ready...it stuck! It was a breeze too!

Please stop unhealthy habits BEFORE it is too late!

Observation is key!

It is important to remember that not everyone sees the world as you do.

In the grand scheme of things, your relationship to yourself is the one that will always matter most!

You attract what you emit;

if you are angry, you may find yourself surrounded by unhappy people and events...if you are blissful, you will be embraced by serenity and joy!

LOVE...LOVE...LOVE...

Love is action, idea, emotion. Love is raw and strange and can be both inviting and repellent. Love is so many things and yet one thing. We love. We are in love. We are lovers. We make love. We would love to… What then, is the right way to define love?

Love as action is what we do when we show someone our love. We place our love upon someone when we care to show them how we feel about them. We do this in a number of ways. We simply tell them how we feel. We use sweet talk in words we may never had thought would escape our lips on purpose! We say things like Shmoopie and Muffin, Honey Lamb and Kitten. Some of us actually repress the need to vomit when we find ourselves talking this way to our beloved. What mush pile is it that love has seen me become, we ask.

We buy gifts for each other. We give tokens of our love. We sometimes put a great deal of thought into these gifts yet at other times we do not. We feel it necessary to remind people how we feel about them as if they would forget from day to day.  A gift that says I love you might be a plush toy that has written upon it somewhere, those very words. It might, on the other hand be a piece of jewelry or a piece of art. Its representation in gifts is infinite really.

Love letters, love notes, love poems; outpourings on paper of our emotive need to tell another our truest feelings. These are the kinds of proof of love that a person is likely to retain, even after love may have fled.  Personally, this is my favorite method of expression of any emotion. It can be mysterious and telling.  The written word is completely at your mercy and you are free to shape it exactly as you wish. 

Songs can be a fantastic expression of love. There are so many to choose from that a body is sure to have immeasurable choices at any one time. Every great crooner in the world has written a song that when you hear it you can feel ,in the very core of you, a personal serenade! Every person has in common that song that makes you feel a certain way, reminds you of a special person or moment. Your life may even have a soundtrack of the season! Alanis Morissette, Tori Amos, Daughtry…all excellent choices for the lovers both new and tortured!

There are other ways to show love. We give flowers, sometimes even going to great pains to make sure the flower itself, besides being a thing of beauty, also has a unique significance. A red rose, for example, has an entirely separate meaning than a yellow rose. If you give a lover a yellow rose, it implies friendship and may lead to hurt feelings. Who knew that flowers could be so tricky?

We cook for one another. We show off our culinary talents to impress our mates. We make picnic lunches for a romantic beach excursion. We prepare several course meals for our love’s family who we know is judging our skills at handling the future dietary care of their son or daughter.  We braise the meat and fluff the stuff. We examine the feeding faces for any sign of distaste and play over and over in our minds about the lack or the excess of seasonings…all for love.

All of the material ways to show love does not measure on the scale when compared to the way you make someone feel with how you treat them.  It is important to pay attention to what it is your partner needs.  Respect for the feelings of one another is one of the keys to success.

Love is...

Know that love is not perfect.

When you open yourselves up to the possibility of loving someone, there is a chance you will get hurt. 

There is a chance you will do the hurting. There is a chance you will feel amazing. There is a chance you will amaze!

You need to believe in yourself and open your heart!

my relationship with food...nom nom nom

Today I have been filling out a food diary.

So far, I am doing swell with my choices!

The key for me will be to up my water intake!

I do not know at what point in my life I became anti water!!!!!!!!

My personal battle: EVERY second of today, I have been craving an In-and-Out double double!!

May the Gods of willpower be ever in my favor!

work relationships

As I look at the title of this entry, I can only think that these are two of the most difficult words in language. Each word stands in the place of so many things; work can be a place or an action, and relationships are what transpires between masses of energy, how we coexist and behave with each other.

My troubles,each day, begin here...with my work relationships. I feel trapped as I sit, surrounded by unhealthy gossip and chatter. I am enveloped with liars, young and old, who cannot seem to traverse the day without a melodramatic meltdown. I imagine that if the feeling were any more tangible and transforming, I would be a lead weight sinking in a bottomless pool of water.

My struggle is to keep a respectable attitude and not become involved. I feel that even if I try to defend, it involves me. At what point do I draw the line. I already have copped to having an issue with bad leadership. At my workplace,this is also the case, in my opinion,of course(*since this is my writing, my opinion is most decidedly always right!) and so my predicament worsens.

I am certain that I am NOT the only one who feels trapped by a poor economy, over saturated job market, and a steady paycheck! Truth be told,to try to wait it out might kill me, and I am not quite sure what my next move should be.

I wish I could say this to the other half of my work relationships, "Ahem...I do not wish to participate in idle gossip. It reflects poorly on our entire department when people take advantage of loose restrictions placed upon us. Mind your own business, this conversation does not involve you. Your behavior is very off putting, especially when you just stand and stare at someone. Some relationships are toxic. What comes around  goes around. Please explain to me how strapless bra and headless horseman are  Oxymoron examples."

Instead of saying these things...I wrote a musical based on working in an office. My musical is called :

HELL MUST BE MADE UP OF CUBICLES

and is the story of one and of many!

Sometimes ranting about things really does make a person feel better!

how do you get your husband to remember your anniversary?????

Get married on one of his close friend's birthday!!!!

Now to get him to not schedule band rehearsal on that same night!